Depression is at least one of the top five diseases that happen in the world today. I think one of the biggest reasons people have unhappy days is because of so much corruption, exploitation, and fear in the world, that they have stopped desiring to be happy. They fear it.
For example, my dad reads the newspaper everyday so many of the times, I was influenced by the news. Every time he passed me the newspaper, there was always something depressing that happened. People stole things from others, people getting killed, war breaking out, schools shutting down, and people getting kicked out of their homes. When my mind saw this, there was absolutely no way to be happy for the remainder of the day. Why?
Well, to be blunt, I felt guilty.
I felt that if any day or time I felt too happy, karma would come back and hit me. It was wrong to be too happy because I would eventually sink back down so it would be safer to stay slightly depressed. Now when I think back during those times, I shake my head as it was my choice to think like that, and that is why I had those unhappy days!
I think a lot of people go through this state also. Maybe you’re in line to by coffee or you’re at work waiting for the fax machine and somebody compliments you, you may have a common instinct that dismisses them for being polite. This happens to us often, but it really roots down to how we feel about ourselves. And if we always dismiss other people for complimenting us, how in the world are we supposed to have a happy day? Next time, accept the compliment and instead smile, say thank you, and let it in.
Here are some examples how you can look at your day.
- Today sucks. / Today rocks!
- Nobody likes me. / I love everybody!
- I never get the breaks. / Breaks come to me all the time!
- He/she can but I can’t. / I will learn from others who can!
- Business is bad. / I will find a way to make my business better!
- Everything is going to go wrong. / Everything in my life has potential to go right!
- Everyone is against me. / People don’t understand me but I love myself!
- Time needs to go by faster. / I love the present moment!
- I am not going to succeed. / I will succeed!
- I can’t do it / I can do it!
Even if all else fails, you can at least look at the things you have right now. It may not be much, but if you have the ability to reach this on a computer and have internet access, you have more than a lot of the world. Be grateful that you have a roof over your head right now and have accessible food near you. Even though it might not be delicious, it still can keep you from starving.
When we focus on what we don’t have, it is natural that we will feel unhappy. When we are unhappy, we struggle to become happy. This becomes a trap we fall into or a cycle. When we focus on what we do have, even if it’s a little bit, we go into a positive state. It is above the neutral scale. This makes it easier to be happy and attract more happiness.
You can kind think picture a black line in front of you. It represents neutrality. Even if you are rich, but still obsess about chasing something nicer, you will be under the line and it will make you unhappy, as that’s where your thoughts are placed. If you are poor, but you are glad for what you have, you will be slightly above the line, but at least you’ll be happy.
It doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor, black or white, young or old, or sexy or not sexy at all (me), happiness is a state of our mind. Whatever is happening to you on the outside, you have freedom to choose what is going on in the inside. As simple as it is, people think happiness has to be something complicated. They think it can’t be this easy to achieve happiness, and because they are thinking like this, they are getting what they have stated for themselves.
One final tip is that you can always start your day out happy. You can create a mantra and say it to yourself as you wake up:
Today is going to be a new and wonderful day for me. I love today and there will not be another day like this one. Whatever I do I will prosper. Even if my attention starts to go away from that which is good and positive, I will bring it back to a good and lovely state. My soul is attracting to myself all the things that bless and prosper me. I am going to do wonderful things today. I am definitely going to be happy all day because I love living!
Okay, so I know that sounds a little bit cheesy, but it works if you believe it does. Most people start their day and begin it with an attitude that automatically is destined to go in a downwards spiral. They may have the house, the car, the designer clothes, and the jewelry, but still be unhappy. It really comes down to one’s attitude. It doesn’t matter who you are of what you have, you have a choice! Make it a good one and you’ll find yourself to have more happy days.